Tuesday, 26 July 2011

Full circle!

Hi Guys,

As I said, I was going to get the last of the boxes from my neighbours garage over to my place. 

Sue, my buddy, who was the first to help over 4 years ago now to pack up the 2 bedrooms filled to the brim so I could move in quickly to be with Mum to look after her 24/7 in her fight against cancer.  It was Sue who helped me pack up the 2 rooms along with Mum sitting in the corridor watching and checking what we were doing.  This process took awhile as Mum had to tell me the story about each item, who it belonged to, the event attached to it and what provinance it had to our family.

There I was in the garage last Saturday, realising that these were the very first boxes that Sue and I packed together with Mum what now seems like all those years ago.  Talk about emotional. 

We got the items over to my place and I knew that even though it wouldn't take long to sort through it, it was still bittersweet that we were now full circle.  Sue and I took these boxes to May's and now here we were bringing them back.  I didn't plan it that way.  It just happened.

There are now only 6 items of large pieces of my own personal furniture left.  I have given all the rest away to others who would more than likely never be able to afford these pieces of furniture.  At least I know they are well used and appreciated.

On top of all this I have been weeding the front garden, which had run away from me.  John who came to do the job had done one fantastic job along with my and Zigis's assistance.  Now to mass plant some hardy plants and heavily mulch and the front yard will look well kept once more.

As for the last of the boxes, well, apart from the 6 pieces over the road, all my stuff is finally all in one place for the first time in 5 years!

I think I can safely say we have arrived at the hump of the load of 'stuff'.  If only I could make headway by Christmas, I then would be one very happy woman.

I would like to enjoy my family home before I have to sell.  Well, that is the plan.

Now I have to make sure I go through the boxes and not just let them sit there.  There is that danger as this has pricked up some emotional parts in me.  Even though you know your loved ones are gone, for those who hold onto 'stuff' this then can be made an attachment to that.  I do not want to be bogged down ever again and have to make sure I do not dawdle in sorting through these particular boxes.

I don't think I am in danger of that and more than likely is why I am writing it down here to force me to not dwell, but to move forward as I have been doing.

You cannot and I mean cannot take all this 'stuff' with you.  All you can do is leave the good stuff and not ALL the stuff to loved ones.

Mum knew what she had left me.  It was Mum and I who sorted through her Mum's place that took the best of a year to do taking 2 to 4 days each week to achieve it.  No one else in the family was willing to help us so we slogged on together regardless.  She didn't mean to leave me in such a mess, but cancer robbed her of her time and plans.  Never leave it as you just never know what is around that corner called 'time'.  Some things you just have to do there and then.

Now I have reached my 'hump', it is all uphill from now on.  Or is that downhill?  Let's see how I do and how long I take!  This is my challenge to me.

Cheers for now
Anita - who now has to pull her finger out!

And getting closer to being 'unloaded'.

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