Hi Guys,
As I said, I was going to get the last of the boxes from my neighbours garage over to my place.
Sue, my buddy, who was the first to help over 4 years ago now to pack up the 2 bedrooms filled to the brim so I could move in quickly to be with Mum to look after her 24/7 in her fight against cancer. It was Sue who helped me pack up the 2 rooms along with Mum sitting in the corridor watching and checking what we were doing. This process took awhile as Mum had to tell me the story about each item, who it belonged to, the event attached to it and what provinance it had to our family.
There I was in the garage last Saturday, realising that these were the very first boxes that Sue and I packed together with Mum what now seems like all those years ago. Talk about emotional.
We got the items over to my place and I knew that even though it wouldn't take long to sort through it, it was still bittersweet that we were now full circle. Sue and I took these boxes to May's and now here we were bringing them back. I didn't plan it that way. It just happened.
There are now only 6 items of large pieces of my own personal furniture left. I have given all the rest away to others who would more than likely never be able to afford these pieces of furniture. At least I know they are well used and appreciated.
On top of all this I have been weeding the front garden, which had run away from me. John who came to do the job had done one fantastic job along with my and Zigis's assistance. Now to mass plant some hardy plants and heavily mulch and the front yard will look well kept once more.
As for the last of the boxes, well, apart from the 6 pieces over the road, all my stuff is finally all in one place for the first time in 5 years!
I think I can safely say we have arrived at the hump of the load of 'stuff'. If only I could make headway by Christmas, I then would be one very happy woman.
I would like to enjoy my family home before I have to sell. Well, that is the plan.
Now I have to make sure I go through the boxes and not just let them sit there. There is that danger as this has pricked up some emotional parts in me. Even though you know your loved ones are gone, for those who hold onto 'stuff' this then can be made an attachment to that. I do not want to be bogged down ever again and have to make sure I do not dawdle in sorting through these particular boxes.
I don't think I am in danger of that and more than likely is why I am writing it down here to force me to not dwell, but to move forward as I have been doing.
You cannot and I mean cannot take all this 'stuff' with you. All you can do is leave the good stuff and not ALL the stuff to loved ones.
Mum knew what she had left me. It was Mum and I who sorted through her Mum's place that took the best of a year to do taking 2 to 4 days each week to achieve it. No one else in the family was willing to help us so we slogged on together regardless. She didn't mean to leave me in such a mess, but cancer robbed her of her time and plans. Never leave it as you just never know what is around that corner called 'time'. Some things you just have to do there and then.
Now I have reached my 'hump', it is all uphill from now on. Or is that downhill? Let's see how I do and how long I take! This is my challenge to me.
Cheers for now
Anita - who now has to pull her finger out!
And getting closer to being 'unloaded'.
Tuesday, 26 July 2011
Wednesday, 20 July 2011
Waiting for warmer days!
Hi Guys,
Well, the cold can certainly put a dampener on getting anything done. Especially if it is outside one has to get things done!
I have taken other new activities on that get in the way of my task of decluttering, but one that in the end will help me with gaining much needed energy required to achieve my task of decluttering. Yes folks, I have joined a gym! Don't fall over you read it right.
I have worked under the carport to remove some rubbish and more clothes off to the brotherhood recycle bins. Along with that have also started to spruce the look of the place to get ready for the sale of the house in 2013. The first area to be tackled was the front garden bed that really needed attention as the photo below shows... it truly was a disgrace... I kept the garden together for 3 years and in this last year it just got away from me.
Here you will see the front and most of the side deweeded. Next is to replace my very sad letterbox that nearly isn't a letterbox. Ah, the jobs never finish.
So loads of new projects to tackle. Who says I overload myself? Oh, that would be ME!
It is difficult to get motivated in this Melbourne cold winter weather to get out there to get the work done. This weekend my girlfriend Sue is coming over to help me bring back what's left of my Mum's boxes for me to go through from my neighbours garage. Soon all my Mum's stuff and my gear will be finally in one spot only and not all over Melbourne.
I am hoping to get the bulk of this work done by Christmas, but looks like I will have a job that will probably slow that down. This is a good thing as with the job will come much needed funds that I can then pay others to get certain jobs completed in a more timely fashion than I ever could. At least that is my theory.
At least life is not boring and now that I have sorted out my ratbag side of the family, as in removing myself from the equation, I can now get on with the job at hand unencumbered of their angst and judgement. Ah, the freedom. Just like fresh air. You can't get enough of it.
To turn a page like that takes time to get to, but I can highly recommend it. My heart is finally getting that holiday from stress that it so deserves.
You may wonder why I mention all these things. Well, it colours how you cope and how and when you get things done and to a large extent ends up effecting your health. Decluttering is a stressful action for alot of us and to have added stressors thrust upon you just makes the situation even more worse and can compound in ways like effecting your health. In my case my heart.
It wasn't easy to get to that place and to finally let go as it involved members of my family, which I hold dear to my heart. But a few were active in making my life more stressful than necessary and the only way around that was to get out of it altogether. Now that I have cognitively done so, I have laughed, I have slept better, I have not cried as much and most of all I feel more relaxed within myself. Sure I have lost some family members, but look at what I have gained. I have gained 'me' again and the road to better health and more than likely the ability to finally get on top of all that has held me back.
To those family members I have let go I still hold within my heart, but just only the good times. If they ever one day want a relationship with me and that is 'if ever', then for me it will only be possible if they enter into it without the condemnation and judgement of the past. You can't lose horror. You have to remove yourself from the horror.
To be released in such a way has really helped in the decluttering side of things. I view things more clearly. I am able to decide without angst or intrepidation. It really is a relief.
Life goes on regardless whether we like it or not. Why not make life work for you rather than against it!
For some this journey wont take as long as it has for me. And for others even longer. But all the pain, tears and worries have been not for nought and very much worth the tricky journey.
One thing I have done is be true to myself. The other one thing I did that was a negative was dwell for too long in that negative. Never again.
Now if anyone knows anyone who is hard up and needs a working lawn mower, please let me know as I would be happy for mine to go to a well deserving home.
I am now in a place that I see the joy in the process. Now all I have to do is get the energy to hurry it all up!!! Getting old is not for the faint hearted was said to me once and now I have a glimmer of what they meant by that.
So farewell from a more settled 'me'.
Cheers
Anita who is literally shedding the baggage, but still very much tired...
Well, the cold can certainly put a dampener on getting anything done. Especially if it is outside one has to get things done!
I have taken other new activities on that get in the way of my task of decluttering, but one that in the end will help me with gaining much needed energy required to achieve my task of decluttering. Yes folks, I have joined a gym! Don't fall over you read it right.
I have worked under the carport to remove some rubbish and more clothes off to the brotherhood recycle bins. Along with that have also started to spruce the look of the place to get ready for the sale of the house in 2013. The first area to be tackled was the front garden bed that really needed attention as the photo below shows... it truly was a disgrace... I kept the garden together for 3 years and in this last year it just got away from me.
Here you will see the front and most of the side deweeded. Next is to replace my very sad letterbox that nearly isn't a letterbox. Ah, the jobs never finish.
So loads of new projects to tackle. Who says I overload myself? Oh, that would be ME!
It is difficult to get motivated in this Melbourne cold winter weather to get out there to get the work done. This weekend my girlfriend Sue is coming over to help me bring back what's left of my Mum's boxes for me to go through from my neighbours garage. Soon all my Mum's stuff and my gear will be finally in one spot only and not all over Melbourne.
I am hoping to get the bulk of this work done by Christmas, but looks like I will have a job that will probably slow that down. This is a good thing as with the job will come much needed funds that I can then pay others to get certain jobs completed in a more timely fashion than I ever could. At least that is my theory.
At least life is not boring and now that I have sorted out my ratbag side of the family, as in removing myself from the equation, I can now get on with the job at hand unencumbered of their angst and judgement. Ah, the freedom. Just like fresh air. You can't get enough of it.
To turn a page like that takes time to get to, but I can highly recommend it. My heart is finally getting that holiday from stress that it so deserves.
You may wonder why I mention all these things. Well, it colours how you cope and how and when you get things done and to a large extent ends up effecting your health. Decluttering is a stressful action for alot of us and to have added stressors thrust upon you just makes the situation even more worse and can compound in ways like effecting your health. In my case my heart.
It wasn't easy to get to that place and to finally let go as it involved members of my family, which I hold dear to my heart. But a few were active in making my life more stressful than necessary and the only way around that was to get out of it altogether. Now that I have cognitively done so, I have laughed, I have slept better, I have not cried as much and most of all I feel more relaxed within myself. Sure I have lost some family members, but look at what I have gained. I have gained 'me' again and the road to better health and more than likely the ability to finally get on top of all that has held me back.
To those family members I have let go I still hold within my heart, but just only the good times. If they ever one day want a relationship with me and that is 'if ever', then for me it will only be possible if they enter into it without the condemnation and judgement of the past. You can't lose horror. You have to remove yourself from the horror.
To be released in such a way has really helped in the decluttering side of things. I view things more clearly. I am able to decide without angst or intrepidation. It really is a relief.
Life goes on regardless whether we like it or not. Why not make life work for you rather than against it!
For some this journey wont take as long as it has for me. And for others even longer. But all the pain, tears and worries have been not for nought and very much worth the tricky journey.
One thing I have done is be true to myself. The other one thing I did that was a negative was dwell for too long in that negative. Never again.
Now if anyone knows anyone who is hard up and needs a working lawn mower, please let me know as I would be happy for mine to go to a well deserving home.
I am now in a place that I see the joy in the process. Now all I have to do is get the energy to hurry it all up!!! Getting old is not for the faint hearted was said to me once and now I have a glimmer of what they meant by that.
So farewell from a more settled 'me'.
Cheers
Anita who is literally shedding the baggage, but still very much tired...
Monday, 11 July 2011
In a blink!
Hi Guys,
Been over a month since I posted anything about decluttering, get rid of, purging, tossing out, throwing out, selling or giving away of all my worldly stuff.
To put it bluntly, I have been too busy with organising the Wrokdown gigs and frankly way too cold to get motivated. Along with the fact that I have finally started at a gym in my quest to improve my health. Once my health has improved and I have lessened my clutter load I will be one very pleased gal.
That being said it now has to continue to be done. The declutterng that is. Along with all the things and duties that I have had on my plate I had a personal 'family' moment (crisis) that now has made my task of decluttering all that much easier.
I have been persona non grata with my immediate family for the last 4 to 5 years. This is through no fault of my own, but thrust upon me by my Mum before she died due to her Will. Without going into the nitty gritty's I have been tarred, feathered, shunned, ignored, called a liar and blamed for what someone else decided. And the 2 people who placed me in this position apologised to me just days before they died for what they were about to put me through and the other for what they did to me. Life and families. Never easy.
I have tried in one direction of the immediate family to heal the rift, but 3 years on to no avail without any effort from their end either. I see no point in continuing with this endeavour as the attitude is well entrenched and I do not care to surround myself with person's who think so lowly of me of which is based on perception and not fact.
Life is way to short to be toxic like that and not good for one's health, wellbeing and peace of mind.
This has now been 'put to bed' on my part and will now venture forth with a clear view of life with the freedom that it affords me. Now all I have to do is get what is on the exterior to catch up with how I think and feel.
As for the stilleto shoes - they did go to a new home. Phil from NSW just had to have them. And I could understand. I also sold some more clothes, but being the end of financial year it was a bit hohum and slow to go. Out of 4 items 3 sold, but no profit to be had. Just broke even. EBay is not looking crash hot in helping me to get on top of things.
I have regrouped and will sell items at times when there is a market. Like my hats which will be put up for sale in September just in time for the Spring Racing Carnival.
As for sorting, it is so cold now that it is very uncomfortable to do. In light of this it is off to the gym instead. May as well make use of the time in a positive way.
Well off to have a cuppa tea and then the gym...
Chookas
Anita who still grapples with her 'stuff'.
Been over a month since I posted anything about decluttering, get rid of, purging, tossing out, throwing out, selling or giving away of all my worldly stuff.
To put it bluntly, I have been too busy with organising the Wrokdown gigs and frankly way too cold to get motivated. Along with the fact that I have finally started at a gym in my quest to improve my health. Once my health has improved and I have lessened my clutter load I will be one very pleased gal.
That being said it now has to continue to be done. The declutterng that is. Along with all the things and duties that I have had on my plate I had a personal 'family' moment (crisis) that now has made my task of decluttering all that much easier.
I have been persona non grata with my immediate family for the last 4 to 5 years. This is through no fault of my own, but thrust upon me by my Mum before she died due to her Will. Without going into the nitty gritty's I have been tarred, feathered, shunned, ignored, called a liar and blamed for what someone else decided. And the 2 people who placed me in this position apologised to me just days before they died for what they were about to put me through and the other for what they did to me. Life and families. Never easy.
I have tried in one direction of the immediate family to heal the rift, but 3 years on to no avail without any effort from their end either. I see no point in continuing with this endeavour as the attitude is well entrenched and I do not care to surround myself with person's who think so lowly of me of which is based on perception and not fact.
Life is way to short to be toxic like that and not good for one's health, wellbeing and peace of mind.
This has now been 'put to bed' on my part and will now venture forth with a clear view of life with the freedom that it affords me. Now all I have to do is get what is on the exterior to catch up with how I think and feel.
As for the stilleto shoes - they did go to a new home. Phil from NSW just had to have them. And I could understand. I also sold some more clothes, but being the end of financial year it was a bit hohum and slow to go. Out of 4 items 3 sold, but no profit to be had. Just broke even. EBay is not looking crash hot in helping me to get on top of things.
I have regrouped and will sell items at times when there is a market. Like my hats which will be put up for sale in September just in time for the Spring Racing Carnival.
As for sorting, it is so cold now that it is very uncomfortable to do. In light of this it is off to the gym instead. May as well make use of the time in a positive way.
Well off to have a cuppa tea and then the gym...
Chookas
Anita who still grapples with her 'stuff'.
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